Entries by Sam Ryland

Lowering Your Expectations

Here’s something I’m passionate about: drivers should indicate when they are turning or changing lanes. I get really upset when I’m about to step out into the road and a jeep careens around the corner in front of me, or when I’m driving and a car slows down in front of me for no apparent […]

A Tribute to the Unsexy Marriage

You’ve seen the movie: the successful, charmingly goofy guy chases the cute, quirky, insanely successful girl and overcomes some superficial issue to create a grand romantic gesture that brings quirky girl to tears and they live happily ever after. Or something like that. But in real life most male goofiness is just embarrassing and not […]

Almost all advice is bad advice

Take all of the advice you’ve ever been given in your life — from friends, family, colleagues, teachers, internet strangers, everyone — and ask yourself: “how much of this advice actually changed my life for the better?”

You’re a mess, your partner’s a mess, and that’s a beautiful thing

If I only ever learn one thing, it’ll be this: everyone has issues. People come into my therapy space who seem very well put-together: well-dressed, good job, living in a nice house with a picture perfect family to boot. These are the people that everyone sees as the model of success and good mental health. […]